Arsh Says Parents Need To Let Their Children Fail

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Arsh Says Parents Need To Let Their Children Fail

Scored less marks? Don’t worry. You have your whole life ahead.” How often have parents said these astonishing words to their child? With exam season over, results time is marked by highest tension in a student’s life. “What would people think if you score less marks? Dad is in such a high post and his child is a failure? Look at Mr Bhatt’s son. He scored 90%. Why can’t  you too?” Such remarks are often used for children when they fail to level up to the overwhelming expectations of parents. People don’t realise that even though Mr Bhatt’s son scored 90% there may be other areas where he could be lagging behind. If a child is unable to score well in exams it doesn’t mean that he isn’t capable of becoming a successful person in life. Parents are so concerned about society questioning a child’s abilities based on marks that they fail to support their children when they need them the most. Parents fail to teach kids life’s most important lesson — it’s okay to make mistakes and fail. If you are not making mistakes, you aren’t learning anything. It is okay to fail because the best teacher a student can have is his last failure. 

Arsh Bhatt, Chitkara University, Chandigarh
 
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PRERNA JOSHI MAYUR PUBLIC SCHOOL(PATPATGANJ)

Well yes,marks really don''t matter.What really matters is the character of a person including his/her habits,way of behaving,experience and knowledge ,not just reading and learning of facts.Marks are necessary only as far as admissions are concerned but there are still more expectations from life which include the way of living,holding relationships,care,love and most importantly being happy always.Marks give only momentarily happiness ,thus they should always remain secondary in one''s life.

Deborah Bethel Mat Hr Sec School

Parents don''t mind much when we loose in a running race but they are tensed when we fail in our exams... Parents need to understand why their children fail and find a solution for them. Children can learn from their mistakes and try not commit them again. Failures are stepping stones to success.So parents should encourage them to overcome their failures.

Harini MS NAGARJUNA VIDYANIKETAN

Marks don''t at all matter. That''s because you aren''t what you write. Rather, you''re what you experience. Wisdom is considered more important than knowledge, and that is what may be the criteria to judge a person. But the society today is such that parents are forced to belive that failing is bad. And that pressurizes children to such an extent that they forget that embracing defeat is very important.

Dhruvi Moliya Hillwoods school

Marks should really never matter because they lead to tension ,stress and because of which many suicide. Parents should never force children get more marks because everyone has some or the other special quality/feature.

Khushi Sharma BHARTI PUBLIC SCHOOL (SWASTHYA VHR)

Marks don''t matter,knowledge & skills do. Nobody is born perfect,life is all about committing mistakes, learning from them and improvising. If one enhances oneself from his mistakes, then he is not a failure instead he is a learner.

Dhanush Thonaparthi The Hyderabad Public School, Ramant

Scoring marks doesn''t matter until you are in 7th class or so but after that you have to work hard, because it is your tenth grade certificate that can get you into good colleges and ultimately help you get a good job. I agree that children should be allowed to make mistakes , but only till 7th grade. i have noticed that most of the students present here believe that marks are not important but that isn''t true at all, because it ultimately decides your life considering most of us want jobs

R.Abirami Sri Sankara Global Academy

Agree with this point. Yes, marks do matter however that alone cannot define one''s success. Failure teaches to rise like a phoenix when we are orphaned because of failure.

Himanshi Dhawan Saffron Public School

It does not matter how much marks a student has secured in exams, it matters how much values he has grasped in life. A student should be supporting and understanding. In life, we all commit mistakes, even our parents have also committed some. Through mistakes, one gets some experience and hence works harder and harder to achieve success. So, failures are also equally important in life as success is.

Darshil Shah ST. XAVIERS - LOYOLLA -2 LOYOLLA 2

Famous people like Albert Einstein had actually failed in their exams. A student''s character cannot be judged by the marks he/she achieves. In today''s world parents believe that marks are the only way to achieve success in life but a person can do a lot more things instead of just getting good marks in exams.

Yashaswini nand Army Public School

Marks do not matter in life after we have completed our education. What matters is the character of a person and hardwork .

Shardul Gadre VIDYA NIKETAN

Marks really don''t matter. But, the character, the behavior of the person matters.

Riya Pandey Childrens academy

Marks are just to show that how much had we worked for a particular subjects. Failing does not really mean that we have lost our capability to gain more. But parents quite often force their children to work hard for marks . They just want marks either by hook or by crook. At higher level it is only the skills that counts, nor marks. They need to understand that every child cant be a bookworm.

Renisha Christy.R Bethel Mat Hr Sec School

Marks don''t really matter. After all, they are only temporary. What matters most in a student''s life are the values and ethics that govern his/her life. Instead of comparing the marks with other peers, parents can try to motivate the child and increase his/her confidence.

Raghuttama.Padakandla PODAR INTERNATIONAL(ICSE)-

This is very true. Parents pressurise the children very much just for marks. The parents need to understand that its not marks that matter it is the amount of knowledge the child absorbs. It is said that fail al lest one time then only with that experience only can you succeed in life later.

Chaitanya Sharma HUTCHINGS SCHOOL

I seriously believe that marks do not actually matter. In real life what really matters is your potential and your interest in that field. So the people who think that being a book worm is good , think again about it.

Vidya Vishwakarma Vikas Vidyalaya

Well it is a bitter reality of today that parents are running after marks of their children. Directly or indirectly they are the ones responsible for the downfall of education system. They persuade their children to score high and to achieve this they opt the wrong means. In fact if we look deeply down at the ground level we will find it as a major cause of suicide amongst the teen. Well the thinking of parents needs a change

Rajath.K.Patil Kulkarni ST.MARY''S CONVENT & PUBLIC SCHOOL (STATE &

I think Arsh is right,because many of our mistakes can be corrected when mistakes are done by us.There are very less parents who guide them the thought ''Failure is the stepping stone of success''.

Ritvik Baweja Bal Bharati Public School

Completely agree with your views

Sheshadri New English School, Ramanbaug

Well yes, really marks don''t matter. Our generation has very tough competition in every field, and that thing parents can''t take it up easily. They might think that, "his children not eligible for any higher course" while that children is thinking of doing something great , different from all children.... but unfortunately children can''t complete its dream only because of the old thinking of their parents....... This is one of the sad part of our society..... :-(

Advika Asthana AMITY SCHOOL (GURGAON SEC_46)

That is true , Well , I didn''t score good few years back and heard the same... Parents need to mean their statements by not comparing their wards

Harini.V Bethel Mat Hr Sec School

Before educating a child about the success and failure of a life, every parent should be educated about it. Seminars should be conducted by the government to educate parents about it. Many teenagers commit suicide due to scoring less marks. Main reason is parents don''t encourage their children when they are depressed. This mindset of parents should be changed.

Archisha Ghosh VIDYA VALLEY

Children must not be pressurized to get good marks by taking examples of other children''s marks. If the student has failed in some subject, it means that the child focusses more on something else other than academics. So the parents must know what the child''s interests and must let the child follow its dreams.

Bhavana Jaison Atomic Energy Central School No 2

Yes its ok to make mistakes , but one should also learn from their mistakes

AYUSH SINHA rukmani birla modern high school

well that is a amzing topic i know how it feels i love soccer the most and even coach says i shuld in school team by i am 85-95% scorer they tell me to study to maintain it

Palaash Agarwal DELHI PUBLIC SCHOOL ROHINI

Well-said topic. Marks really don''t matter because they are irrelevant and don''t tell us about the attitude of the child. The values of a human being describe the greatness of a person, not marks. Though I get 70-80 % grades but that really doesn''t matter, as I want to spread awareness on environmental issues. But they teach children how to do hardwork. But in higher classes people commit suicide because of marks which create a deadlock on their path to college and job.

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