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Priyanshi Banerjee: Why Compare Siblings?

    • Priyanshi Banerjee,
    • Standard: X-C,
    • Somerville school, Greater Noida,
    • Gautam Buddha Nagar/Gautam Budh Nagar.

    • Publish Date: Oct 13 2016 10:24PM
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    • Updated Date: Oct 14 2016 2:57PM
Priyanshi Banerjee: Why Compare Siblings?

The gardens never claimed roses to be the most beautiful! So why should our elders compare us to our siblings. Every child is a gem in disguise, the comparison can only discourage a child. What's your take? I guess only my fellow mates can answer. 


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Parents, if you are reading this, here are a few effective tips for preventing sibling rivalry. 

  • If you're pregnant with your second child, make sure that you get your firstborn acquainted with your unborn baby during your pregnancy. Try to make him/ her understand that the new arrival is not a threat but a new member of the family. Encourage your child to touch your bump to feel the baby's kicks and let them talk to your stomach. This way, a bond develops even before your baby is born. 
  • Make sure you shower equal attention to your elder child when you get your new baby home. Firstborns tend to feel left out when they realise the spotlight has suddenly shifted from them to the new arrival. This will give rise to feelings of jealousy or low self esteem. 
  • When you have two growing toddlers in the house, sharing toys, books, etc will always become an issue. No matter how close the two are to each other, children have a habit to annoy each other in ways you can't even imagine. Set boundaries and don't hesitate to confiscate items if things reach a stalemate.
  • As a parent, it is also important for you to set limits — your kids should know when they've crossed the line and what the consequences can be. The moment you think a squabble will blow out of proportion, it is best to separate the children.
  • Another effective way to cool down tempers is to ask your children how they feel if they see that they have hurt their brother or sister. Empathy is an important attribute that kids need to learn and be aware of.
  • Avoid comparing the kids to each other to stop an argument. This will only worsen the situation and cause more fights.

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Khushi Sharma BHARTI PUBLIC SCHOOL (SWASTHYA VHR)

Exactly! Like all our fingers are not equal yet essential similarly both the siblings may not excel in the same fields and possess their own interests.One may be studious so the other may excel in sports.

Darshil Shah ST. XAVIERS - LOYOLLA -2 LOYOLLA 2

You have raised an excellent question. My parents often compare me with my sibling on the basis of school marks as well as other co-curricular activities. I don''t feel the need to compare. Every person has their own talents and skills in which he/she has performed well. Why compare in those activities where the child is not good.

Bhavana Jaison Atomic Energy Central School No 2

Yes very true. Comparing the siblings is very painful. The elder child in the family always suffer because of this .

Tanya Singh BHAWAN VIDYALAYA CHD-SEC-27

Comparing siblings often becomes the source of discouragement. It creates an unhealthy barrier that bars the individual to be be different. Parents should be considerate in this regard and thus, refrain from comparing their children even unintentionally.

Brenda Marshal PADUA HIGH SCHOOL-MANKHURD

Yes that''s true. It''s very painful if we get compared among siblings. I always get compared because I am the smallest in my family.......

Sarath Kumar RM Bethel Mat Hr Sec School

Comparisons with the siblings will only lead in the break of relationships. Moreover each one possesses unique talents.

Sarath Kumar RM Bethel Mat Hr Sec School

The main role of the parents is to bring the best in their children while not comparing them. This will help the student to perform well in any field.

Jeffrey okeke KAUSHALAYA WORLD SCH.GR.NOIDA

GOOD NOT TO COMPARE YOURSELF WITH YOUR SIBLINGS

Aditi Sahi D C MODEL SCH PKL-SEC-7

Sometimes the personality of our siblings overshadows ours,it also happens that in school the teachers identify us as sibling of our elder sister/brother which is so frustrating and irritating.

G. Abishek Bethel Mat Hr Sec School

Comparison of siblings is one of the major problems in today''s India. This may also lead to break in relationships. These comparisons should be made only for a good purpose and not to degrade another person.

Vandana Subash City International School Wanowrie

Nice one Priyanshi..I agree with you

Janani Chandrasekharan Cambridge School, Kandivali (E)

Why to compare ? When we say from the same blood relation what is the concern about it ? My sister may be good in academics while I may be good in drawing or maybe sports. It is not important whether we are bad in something rather important in the good hing we do.

SHUBHAM BANSAL RYAN INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL

yes. everyone cannot have the same talent. some are good in academics while others in sports while some are good in dance or in art. we should never discriminate anyone for his capabilities.

Prerana Sengupta B.D.M. International

Comparison increases competition, but also increases rivalry between the siblings. Competition after a certain period of time becomes a burden for the younger one. Some pass out with flying colors but some cannot because they lose their way amidst the multitude of expectations. In this rat race the talent that one poses remains dormant and is never nurtured.

Himanshi Dhawan Saffron Public School

That''s the point! We are two sisters and often we have to go through this comparison. It''s not just regarding grades or an adamantine determination to work hard but also other qualities such as helping with the household work, kind gesture, politeness etc. Many a times it comes up as a taunt but one should always get inspired. I often get inspired from my sister''s good qualities and this also makes me work harder and harder and to behave nicely.

Pallavi singh PRESENTATION CONVENT(RED FORT)

Yes comparison making will not help in any way but only worsen the situatio children should be taught to get inspire from their siblings rather than envying or critisizing themselves because of the qualities that siblings posess.

Mansi Borade PADUA HIGH SCHOOL-MANKHURD

I THINK WE SHOULD NOT GET DISTRACTED WITH OTHER IF WE FEEL JEALOUSY THEN WE SHOULD TRY TO DO THE BEST.

saishalini Bethel Mat Hr Sec School

Comparison between siblings would only cause a inferiority complex in them which will result in consecutive fights.

saishalini Bethel Mat Hr Sec School

If the attitude of empathy and understanding between the siblings develop then this would cause good relationship between them.

Shayon Upadhaya HANSRAJ MORARJI PUBLIC-ANDHERI-W

Comparing siblings is not a good thing.It affects them mentally and make them feel more lonely and depress.They get jealous from each other and also fight a many times.It is the responsibility of their parents to never compare but encourage them to excel in life.Doing so,they feel happy and live in peace and order.

MEGHA BANSAL RAINBOW ENGLISH SCHOOL (JANAKPURI)

Yes. It''s indeed a fact that comparing siblings is bad for both. The praised ones feel that they are the best and their sibling are just good for nothing and won''t value any of their words or actions while on other hand the one who are compared and are not so good feel neglected, loose self-esteem and are neglected, even this can result in grudges and negative rivalry in future.

Hiya Kilam global indian internatonal school

When I was 9 years old, my mother gave birth to a baby boy. I always wanted a sibling. After a few days, I realized that my mother was paying more attention to my brother than to me. Siblings are god''s gifts. Instead of comparing our siblings with us, we should spend some time with them for a better relationship.

B. THANISH VARDHAN PON VIDYASHRAM

Yes i also have a sibiling , my mother used to compaer her and me like your handwriting is worst than your sister

Yashita Nagpal BHARTI PUBLIC SCHOOL (SWASTHYA VHR)

Our parents just want us to be better and ahead of others be it our siblings or our neighbourers.They compare us with other children not to demotivate us but to gear up ourselves, to set our targets high, so that we can achieve better.A healthy competition should never be compared with demotivation but should be considered as a chance of improvement.So we shouldn''t feel dejected if we score less than others but we must try to improve which will ultimately lead to our betterment.

Nishi Upadhyay BHARTI PUBLIC SCHOOL (SWASTHYA VHR)

Its a stereotype that siblings are similar.

V.Aditya Pon Vidyashram - Valasaravakkam

You are right ! My brother makes all things and blame all the time I get always get frustrateed

KAVYASRI R M Bethel Mat Hr Sec School

Perfectly said. The comparison between siblings results in break of the true bonding and love.Instead parents can support and encourage their child''s individual talents.

Aditi Warrier Army Public School Bolarum

Very true. I strongly feel that siblings are two different individuals good at different things. I also think that we should not only not compare siblings but also not compare two different children on the basis of anything.

S.VIDHYAALAKSHMI SHREE NIKETAN MAT -

I too don''t like comparison

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